06.09.2024

The hidden language of dress in high society

The hope is that every man can eventually reach a place where he dresses with true class - not as a performance for others, but as an authentic expression of his inner self.

By Raja Izz

Discover the surprising fashion trends in high society, where understated elegance trumps flashy outfits. Learn how confidence and simplicity define true class among the social elite.

Pierre Casiraghi & Beatrice Borromeo at Cannes 2024 | ©JP PARIENTE/SIPA

In the rarefied air of high society events - from polo matches to black-tie galas to ministerial visits - clothing speaks volumes. But what it says might surprise you. Based on years of firsthand observations, I've noticed an intriguing pattern: those truly at the apex of the social hierarchy often dress with understated elegance, while newcomers tend to overcompensate with flashier, more attention-seeking attire.

The Paradox of High Society Style

It's a curious phenomenon. One might expect the upper echelons of society to dress in the most opulent, eye-catching manner possible. After all, they have the means and the access to the finest clothing and accessories. Yet, time and again, I've witnessed the opposite.

At polo matches, the "old money" crowd often opts for classic, well-tailored pieces that prioritize comfort and functionality. Their outfits whisper rather than shout, allowing their poise and demeanor to do the talking. In contrast, those newer to such circles frequently arrive in outfits that seem designed to scream, "Look at me! I belong here!" - a sartorial overcompensation that ironically marks them as outsiders.

Black-tie events tell a similar story. The most established attendees often stick to timeless, impeccably fitted tuxedos or gowns, eschewing ostentatious accessories or trendy twists. They understand that true elegance lies in quiet sophistication. Meanwhile, those eager to prove their worth might opt for more flamboyant choices - oversized bow ties, bangles on both hands, or clothing that prioritize shock value over sophistication.

Even in the presence of dignitaries or ministers, this pattern holds. The genuinely influential often dress in a way that communicates respect for the occasion without drawing undue attention to themselves. It's the social climbers who tend to overdress, as if their wardrobe choices alone could elevate their status.

The Confidence Factor

So what drives this inverse relationship between status and sartorial showmanship? In my observation, it all comes down to confidence - specifically, inner confidence.

Pierre Casiraghi and Beatrice Borromeo attend the Christian Dior Womenswear Spring/Summer 2024 show

©Marc Piasecki

Those who have long been secure in their social standing don't feel the need to prove anything with their clothing choices. They're comfortable in their own skin and understand that their worth extends far beyond their wardrobe. This inner confidence allows them to dress in a way that's appropriate and refined without being showy.

Conversely, those still establishing themselves in high society circles often lack this innate self-assurance. They may use bold fashion choices as a form of armor, a way to convince others (and perhaps themselves) of their social status. It's a natural human impulse, but one that often backfires in these rarefied environments.

Dressing with True Class

The key takeaway here is not that one should dress down or avoid style altogether. Rather, it's about understanding that true class in dressing comes from within. It's about wearing clothes that make you feel confident and comfortable, rather than choosing outfits solely for their ability to impress others.

A few principles to keep in mind:

1. Embrace simplicity. Often, less truly is more. A clean, classic look allows your personality to shine through.

2. Dress for the occasion, not for attention. Show respect for the event and your hosts through appropriate attire.

3. Let your character be your standout accessory. No outfit can replace genuine warmth, intelligence, and grace.

A Journey, Not a Destination

It's important to remember that developing this kind of quiet confidence in one's style is a journey. Many of those I've observed at the top of the social hierarchy didn't start there - they too went through phases of sartorial trial and error.

The hope is that every man can eventually reach a place where he dresses with true class - not as a performance for others, but as an authentic expression of his inner self. This doesn't mean abandoning style or individuality. Rather, it's about finding that sweet spot where your outward appearance aligns seamlessly with your inner character.

In the end, the most powerful statement you can make with your clothing is this: "I am comfortable with who I am." Achieve that, and you'll have mastered the art of dressing for any social circle, no matter how elite.

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