21.04.2025

Why I found true love in Egypt: A Malaysian man’s reflection

A heartfelt story from Cairo by a GC reader, a Malaysian man who found true happiness in Egypt.

GC Illustration.

Letter from Imran,

Good evening GC,

Imran from Egypt at 1:56 pm local time here.

I am a Malaysian but residing in Cairo since 2018. The reason I have reached out to you is because I find your feedback on various issues very intriguing. I'm married to an Egyptian girl whom I met when I was pursuing my PHD. What is interesting is how different it is being married to an Egyptian lady.

If any bachelor wants to get married to a girl who is the embodiment of a lady, you have to come to Egypt because the distinction is so glaring. As I have observed, Egyptian girls are mysteriously beautiful because they are known to care for their looks since ancient times. It has become their tradition and the best is, they already have natural beauty and they require minimal makeup. They also have that "royal vibe" surrounding them which makes them not only beautiful but attractive. On top of that, they are very respectful to their husbands. They don't question this and that. They never would want to argue with their husbands. If they think you are wrong, they would say it politely that you yourself would ponder and refuse to debate because they are so humble and polite. They don't even ask for money until you give it to them. Whatever you give, they would never ask more. That is how an Egyptian girl is and I am thankful to God for his greatest gift to me, an Egyptian wife.

She is just the best. Every single day without fail (unless she is unwell) she would immediately greet me at the door as I returned home from study or work and would grab my bag and coat without fail and keep them in the wardrobe. Sometimes I feel so touched that I would flash a smile at her each time she does that.

Egyptian girls love to cook. They know that the kitchen is where the wife needs to be. She makes sure the house is clean. She takes care of the laundry without being told that sometimes I feel sorry that she needs to do all the chores and that I would automatically offer her some help. If this was my ex wife, she would instruct me to do this and that. She would tell me to clean the dishes and take out the trash because in their mind, this is a maid's job not a wife.

Egyptians are conservative so they wear decent dressing but they are not picky when it comes to wearing a veil. My wife occasionally wears a veil if she wants it. Her veil is just a scarf where it would expose her hair at the front. Most muslim girls in Egypt do not wear veils but they wear decent dressing as opposed to in Malaysia where veils that require complete coverage must be followed. There is a huge cultural difference here too.

What amuses me is how respectful Egyptian women are to their husbands. When guests come to the house, they would immediately serve food and drink and they would clean the dishes once the guests leave. They will never tell their husbands to help them. But we as a husband would be obligated to help them because they are just so sweet and kind.

The best is, my Egyptian wife has never raised her voice at me as we enter our 4th year of marriage. Not even at a high pitch tone because she believes that it is a sin if a wife talks in a high pitch tone unless it is a medical condition (e.g. deaf).

Whatever it is, I am happily married and I was glad that I made the decision to call it quits otherwise I would have never pursued my doctorate and found my one true love. There is always a happy marriage if you want it. Find someone that you can be happy with. There is always someone out there for you.

I never thought I would find my soul mate all the way in Egypt. I have many friends in Malaysia who seem stuck in a bad life phase. They seem to think that they are being punished for some sin they made to end up in an unhappy life stage which to me is totally wrong. They are just punishing themselves which would lead to serious health issues.

I really think there should be some encouragement for those in an unhappy relationship to take some action and be optimistic that there is always somebody out there.

You will know she is THE ONE without realizing it. That is what I felt with my current wife.

Imran

Answer by The Gentleman:

Hi Imran,

Good evening, and thank you for reaching out all the way from the timeless city of Cairo. It's always a pleasure to hear from a fellow Malaysian who has ventured beyond borders and found a life full of new discoveries — especially of the heart.

Your letter is heartfelt, bold, and filled with a conviction that many men are afraid to voice. We appreciate your honesty, and we applaud your courage in navigating through personal trials to arrive at a place of contentment. It takes a certain strength to acknowledge the peace found in a new beginning.

Egypt, the land steeped of regal tradition, no doubt imparts a distinct elegance to its women — a grace that echoes through your vivid description of your wife. The "royal vibe" you spoke of is an eye-opening, and we can only imagine the quiet power that comes from being part of a culture steeped in pharaonic pride and beauty rituals that date back to the times of Alexander The Great. They say the Nile carries secrets of beauty that even Cleopatra would envy today — perhaps you've discovered what Mark Antony knew all those centuries ago!

At GC, we believe that mystery is not about hiding — it is about revealing the self slowly, with poise. And sometimes, that includes rewriting the narrative of who we think women are and what we may think they're supposed to be. We also believe a gentleman is not one who seeks a maid in his wife, but a partner — one who inspires him to be kind, gentle, and strong all at once.

Your story serves as a reminder that love, like destiny, has its own strange geography. Sometimes, it leads us across continents to meet the one who feels like home. Just like Julius Caesar (Roman Empire) and Cleopatra (Egypt) themselves. The heart, it seems, has a passport that requires no stamping.

This brings us to ponder: In your journey between cultures and continents, have you discovered that what we seek in love reflects not just our desires, but the wounds we're trying to heal? Perhaps in finding someone so different from your past, you've actually found the missing pieces of yourself.

With admiration for your candour and best wishes for your continuing journey,
The Gentleman

Gentlemen's Code has your back! We're thrilled to announce our brand new section on our website: "Ask the Gentleman." Submit your burning questions on all things refined living, health & fitness, relationships, culture, style, and etiquette by emailing editor@gentlemanscodes.com.

Please note:

1. We no longer accept letters on marital or divorce issues.

2. We do not entertain unconstructive correspondence or hate speech.

Please enter invitation code

Request access

Why I found true love in Egypt: A Malaysian man’s reflection

A heartfelt story from Cairo by a GC reader, a Malaysian man who found true happiness in Egypt.

GC Illustration.

Letter from Imran,

Good evening GC,

Imran from Egypt at 1:56 pm local time here.

The best is, my Egyptian wife has never raised her voice at me as we enter our 4th year of marriage. Not even at a high pitch tone because she believes that it is a sin if a wife talks in a high pitch tone unless it is a medical condition (e.g. deaf).

I really think there should be some encouragement for those in an unhappy relationship to take some action and be optimistic that there is always somebody out there.

You will know she is THE ONE without realizing it. That is what I felt with my current wife.

Imran

Answer by The Gentleman:

Hi Imran,

Good evening, and thank you for reaching out all the way from the timeless city of Cairo. It's always a pleasure to hear from a fellow Malaysian who has ventured beyond borders and found a life full of new discoveries — especially of the heart.

This brings us to ponder: In your journey between cultures and continents, have you discovered that what we seek in love reflects not just our desires, but the wounds we're trying to heal? Perhaps in finding someone so different from your past, you've actually found the missing pieces of yourself.

With admiration for your candour and best wishes for your continuing journey,
The Gentleman

Gentlemen's Code has your back! We're thrilled to announce our brand new section on our website: "Ask the Gentleman." Submit your burning questions on all things refined living, health & fitness, relationships, culture, style, and etiquette by emailing editor@gentlemanscodes.com.

Please note:

1. We no longer accept letters on marital or divorce issues.

2. We do not entertain unconstructive correspondence or hate speech.

Related posts

Please enter invitation code

Request access

Flipped products

Search

Flipped products

Why I found true love in Egypt: A Malaysian man’s reflection

A heartfelt story from Cairo by a GC reader, a Malaysian man who found true happiness in Egypt.

GC Illustration.

Letter from Imran,

Good evening GC,

Imran from Egypt at 1:56 pm local time here.

The best is, my Egyptian wife has never raised her voice at me as we enter our 4th year of marriage. Not even at a high pitch tone because she believes that it is a sin if a wife talks in a high pitch tone unless it is a medical condition (e.g. deaf).

I really think there should be some encouragement for those in an unhappy relationship to take some action and be optimistic that there is always somebody out there.

You will know she is THE ONE without realizing it. That is what I felt with my current wife.

Imran

Answer by The Gentleman:

Hi Imran,

Good evening, and thank you for reaching out all the way from the timeless city of Cairo. It's always a pleasure to hear from a fellow Malaysian who has ventured beyond borders and found a life full of new discoveries — especially of the heart.

This brings us to ponder: In your journey between cultures and continents, have you discovered that what we seek in love reflects not just our desires, but the wounds we're trying to heal? Perhaps in finding someone so different from your past, you've actually found the missing pieces of yourself.

With admiration for your candour and best wishes for your continuing journey,The Gentleman

Gentlemen's Code has your back! We're thrilled to announce our brand new section on our website: "Ask the Gentleman." Submit your burning questions on all things refined living, health & fitness, relationships, culture, style, and etiquette by emailing editor@gentlemanscodes.com.

Please note:

1. We no longer accept letters on marital or divorce issues.

2. We do not entertain unconstructive correspondence or hate speech.

Related posts

With admiration for your candour and best wishes for your continuing journey,
The Gentleman