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Letter from Nadia.
Hi GC,
Its 3:34 am here as I begin typing this and this is the time i am usually awake to write my PHD thesis paper but while I am taking a break now, I'd like to chime in some pointers about your ask the gent section on men after reading their frustrations.
1. Men are pampered by their moms
As the title suggests, men are spoiled brats because they are pampered by their moms. That is why they can't do anything in a household. They just leave the plates at the dishes, they just expect food is prepared on the table. They are the poorest and most terrible leaders. They can't make decisions properly. We women are more intelligent and more discipline than men because women receive strict upbringing. Before maghrib, we have to go back home. We are expected to know how to clean the house, prepare meals in the kitchen, taking care of our parents. People don't care about men what time you come back. People don't care about men if they can't cook or can't clean the house. Your mothers spoil you. Women of today's generation won't pamper their sons like how the older generation mothers would.
2. Men care less about religion than women.
Women have more knowledge about religion than men. Take a look at the Faith Events in PWTC. There are a majority of women in attendance than men because women want to learn. Women want to gain knowledge about their own religion and be prepared for the afterlife. Men on other hand, despite the fact that religion says they are leaders, they don't attend all these religious events because they think they know everything. We are prone to praying 5 times more daily than men.
3. More Men have lower education than women
Men are lazy. They don't want to study. They think they want to work after SPM / diploma, get married and then pretend that they can lead when clearly they can't. We women have higher education than them which is exactly why the role has reversed. We make a better leader than men. Men today can't lead at all because they lack education. They don't qualify to lead. When they lead a household, it becomes chaotic and ends up in a divorce because of poor judgment from their end. We women work harder in schools because women are hungry for success and economic freedom. Men are just plain lazy and want to be dumb.
4. Lack of financial management education
Men and their constant worry about money. A man's responsibility is money. period. If you don't have enough money to provide, don't get married. Which part isn't clear to you guys? Before you guys want to settle down, bear in mind that your finances will rise, doubling the amount. You are pretty much paying for 2 pax. You are not supposed to ask a woman to help pay your bills by splitting them. That is a red flag. It is not a gentleman at all. Kalau you guys tak de duit, jgn kawin. Don't follow your peers and be pressured by your parents to get married if you don't have the money. It is wrong to ask your wife to help pay for you, if you do that your marriage won't last. If you can't support a wife. How can you support children? Baik jangan kawin lah. This is why divorce is high because it comes from men. Men just want to get married without financial planning. Men are not far sighted like women. It is always short term. Bila nak kahwin, kahwin, duit fikir kemudian. If that is the thinking, you will end up divorce. That is why ppl say women are long term strategic thinkers...not men. Bottom line, if you think you are not financially sound, don't get married. Let the girl find someone else who can give her happiness.
5. Men are not Perfectionist
Men are never perfect. They think the bare minimum. They don't strive for excellence. Women are always striving for excellence. We are perfectionists. I am reading your social media outcry where a woman isn't satisfied with her man liking another woman's photo and I stand by her. It is clearly the man's fault for being flirty. That is not a fault finder by any means. A woman sees it as a big thing so it is a big thing for her. Men should just accept the blame and apologize rather than being all defensive. That is how a gentleman should be. Admit your mistakes that you have liked a lady's photo or chatted with another woman on social media behind your wife's back. When you are quietly doing it, it means you are being dishonest and you deserve the insults from your wife because you ask for it. Women are perfectionists by nature so don't be defensive by claiming that it is just a like, or she is just a friend. The fact that you like a female photo means you are attracted to this girl. I will interrogate my man if I caught him liking a female photo (be it a friend, a celebrity, a public figure).
The qualities that we seek in a leader are no longer the embodiment of masculinity. It is the other way around. Sorry men, this is now a fact so please embrace and adapt.
To GC, you have to think outside the box on how men should navigate their relationship with a woman.
I don't know if there is still hope for men to maneuver from this predicament because from the way I see it, men have lost their grip as a leader. Women are slowly taking over that mantle.
Give it another 10 years and men will no longer hold any value to a woman. So you guys have to find ways to adapt with this new norm.
It's a 4:40 am here, I think I have said everything needed from a woman's perspective. It is up to GC to take into consideration the points I have raised.
Thank you and good night.
